Love & Judgement

Sometimes the person whom you love and care for the most becomes the person who hurts you the most.

What do you do when that happens?
Do you continue loving and caring for the person?
Or do you distant yourself further to prevent yourself from getting hurt?

Christianity is not perfect. It is the strive to perfection - in which perfection is defined by the image of Jesus.

We are all not perfect. No one is. Do you not know? Anyone who says he or she is perfect all in all is imperfection at its perfection.

You know something? Christians Judge, as do with all other people. Sad to say that... but it is the reality of things... how things are like in life.

When you see a person... you would definitely size up the person based on appearance, character, and talent. Whatever the person projects over in any of these areas is immediately pieced into a mental puzzle to be classified to your "dumping ground" or "good friends" area. Through conversation and actions, the person oscillates between either end of the spectrum.

Of course, those who go to the "good friends" spectrum, you find yourself talking to them more often, caring for them more than others, finding a increased willingness to help them as you know that they always accept you for who you are, and that whatever they say are never intentionally hurtful.

Then comes the "dumping ground", the place that they clutter together with their similar kind of character... you judge don't you? Based on? Values? Morals? What is the yardstick?

Yardstick... Where does one get one? How is it formed... you ask... Through experience, both that of others and that of yourself... Ginosko. That this yardstick is formed.

We strive not to judge... but fail miserably... thats why we are who we are... and not Jesus. No one ever comes to be Him. But we try. Failure is a measure of success. Isn't it?

So what's the rationale for " dumping ground" and "good friends"?

Ever wondered?

It is to prevent yourself from being hurt. That you know that if you put people from dumping ground in your good friends list... what they do and say... over time, gets overtly hurtful... cos you care for them much that what they say means so much to you...

What happens if "good friends" throw you hurtful words?

Same thing. You get hurt. I wouldnt care if someone from dumping ground said that. But if it was to come right from what you think... that would hurt... wouldnt it? Why? Cos i care...

Do i choose to distant myself that i wont be hurt anymore... that i could develop a kind of obsolete coldness that pushes every emotion away?

I wonder. People need encouragement, comfort, and support to spur each other on. Words that are hurtful are not meant to be said.

Let my words edify.

We are called to love and encourage one another.... covenant in you.